Frisky Foreplay started the way most of our games do: we wanted to play something, couldn’t find it, and made it ourselves.
The problem we were trying to solve is a common one. In a long relationship it gets harder, not easier, to ask for what you actually want. You worry the idea is too much. You wonder whether they’ll think it’s strange. So the thought stays in your head and nothing changes.
A game solves that, because a game takes the asking out of it. When the dice choose, nobody had to be brave first. You can try something, laugh about it, and either add it to the repertoire or never speak of it again. That’s the whole design brief, and everything in the game exists to serve it.
How the game is built
Three dice, six levels of heat, and 216 activities that climb from warm and loving to somewhere you won’t be describing at dinner parties. The level only rises when you both decide it does — the game escalates at your pace or not at all.
Every dare is written to be an invitation rather than an instruction, and there are free passes and forfeits built in so that turning something down is a normal part of playing rather than a failure. That’s the single rule we care most about getting right.
The activity sets come in straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual and threesome versions, because a game that only works for one kind of couple isn’t finished.
What we believe
- Good sex improves everything else. Encouraging intimate expression between loving couples is good for the people involved, good for the relationship, and no business of anyone else’s.
- Everyone has the right to their own sexual identity, orientation and preferences, as long as nobody is harmed.
- Coercion, abuse and intolerance of any kind are unacceptable. There is no version of this game where that changes.
- Censorship is rarely the answer, but taste and discretion matter in how ideas are presented. People should be free to decide their own limits — and to move them, or not.
- Ideas can offend. Only people can harm.
- Curiosity is the point. Most of what’s in the game came from trying something and finding out.
Who’s writing this
We publish here as Frisky Foreplaying — a husband-and-wife team who have been designing games for couples for well over a decade, under a pen name because our neighbours don’t need the details.
Frisky Foreplay is one of several things we make. The gentler, more romantic end of the catalogue lives at Sexy Suggestions — coupons, questions, card games and creative sex ideas for couples who want the same closeness with less of an edge.
How we make money
We sell our own app and our own books. That’s it.
This site used to carry affiliate links to other people’s products, and it doesn’t any more — no commissions, no sponsored placements, nothing paid to appear here. If we name a product we didn’t make, it’s because we think it’s worth naming and you can go and find it yourself.
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